Articles & Podcasts by Pritchett
On Death Cafes - In "High Country News"
My father's recent death was not beautiful, and neither were any of the other deaths I've witnessed of late. This has left me wondering about a better path. Death is not easy, to be sure, but these were made particularly painful by medical interventions — or perhaps I witnessed the confusion between saving a life and prolonging the process of dying. . .
So I threw a party. Or rather, I held my first Death Café, and it turned out to be a lively, invigorating affair.
In Europe, there's a tradition of gathering to discuss important subjects — a café philo, for a philosophical café, or café scientifique, a scientific café, and now there are café mortel, or death cafés. A death café isn't an actual place; it's a temporary event in various locations, such as my home, complete with decorations and a cake with DEATH: THE FINAL FRONTIER scrawled on top. . . . Read more here
Writing about my father'S Death - In "Tin House"
In my father’s truck was this: an extra pipe, orange bailing twine, a bottle of Gink (“World’s Best Dry Fly Dressing”), a black film canister full of fishing flies (bought for a buck each from his barber), Dr. Grabow pipe filters, an “Emeritus” parking permit for the university, a Stetson cowboy hat size 59-7 3/8, a bottle of mouthwash, and dust and bits of hay and a few ear tags for the cattle.
This was twelve years ago and it is exactly the last memory of him I have before the Alzheimer’s. The last moment I had with the Regular Him. Read more here
The Best Movies, Music, and Books about Death, from the Book's complete list
Part of the book includes lists --- I’m a fan of lists! – and some of the lists are about Capital-A Art surrounding death. Here’s a sampling of the list of movies . . . .These movies explore death. They offer something new about the processing of death, fears, corpses, afterlife, the mucky real stuff, and they’re the Good Movies . . .
Harold and Maude – Anytime I mentioned a list of death movies, someone was sure to mention, “You’ve got Harold and Maude, right?” Of course. Yes. Here it is, up top. Because this movie is about life (“Give me an L, give me an I, give me a V, give me an E. Otherwise, you got nothing to talk about in the locker room!”)
Departures - In need of a job, our young main character answers a vague ad that has him preparing corpses for burial—not what he planned on doing with his life. Soon, he finds a holiness in it; it becomes his calling.
The Sea Inside – Rendered quadriplegic by a diving accident, the main character launches a 28- year-campaign for euthanasia and his right to die.
Defending your Life – After those serious flicks, we thought it might be time for a laugh. This movie takes place at a weigh-station of sorts, a stopover for the recently deceased.
And here are some of our favorite songs that bring comfort
Let the Mystery Be (Iris Dement). This might be my first choice for comfort, because, yes, it allows me to just let the mystery be.
Do You Realize? (The Flaming Lips) - Probably the only song about mortality to ever be declared an Official State Song!
Flower’s Grave (Tom Waits) - One rose blooms as another dies, a hopeful image for the planet continuing on after we’ve left it.
Sing Me to the Other Side (Steve Conn) – May we all have someone to sing us to the other side.
On writing about Killing my Father, IN Fiction - in "Writer's Digest"
The greatest truth about the greatest writing, if you ask me, is this: The author never, ever averts her eyes. Easier said than done, of course, and I’ve not always lived up to my own dictum – for the sake of avoiding collateral damage, I’ve let my gaze waver; or, worse, I have averted my gaze completely and fallen silent. Still, my greatest goal as both writer and human? A refining of my sense of truthfulness, a blooming of bravery, a keeping of clear-eyed gaze even on issues that churn the heart and crush the spirit.
This was on my mind lately as I killed my father. Or imagined him dead. Or thought of the various ways he’d go, and what his particular death would feel like for him. My newest novel, Stars Go Blue, is based, in part, on my family’s experience with my father’s Alzheimer’s. There came a day, about ten years ago, when my father stood in front of the elevator with me in Denver – we were helping one of my brothers move — and my dad had no idea what the elevator was for; he wouldn’t step into it. I tilted my head, confused: Perhaps he’d been out of the city for too long, being a Colorado rancher and all? But no, he had also been a college professor, a geneticist, a world-traveler famous for his research.
Oh, god, I thought. Soon after, he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. . . . Read more here
On Chronic Pain, in the Podcast "Pain Refraimed"
Renowned author Laura Pritchett joins us here on Pain Reframed! Laura is the author of multiple books, including “Stars Go Blue,” “Red Lightning,” “Sky Bridge,” and just recently, “The Blue Hour.” She’s also working on her upcoming book, “The Death Book.” Laura is the first of many guests who will be talking, not from the clinician's perspective, but from the perspective of those who have experienced very serious pain conditions.
Laura shares her journey with physical pain and how she’s learned how to manage that pain through specific and effective thought processes. She, not only discusses the tough times when dealing with the pain, but also what was going through her head and how she was able to combat those thoughts to reduce, or even eliminate, Episode 3 at: http://www.ispinstitute.com/pain-reframed-podcast/ or at https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/pain-reframed-physical-therapy-pain-management/id1223789711
Some other reading. . . .
"The Middle Ages: Sex Scenes of the Middle Aged in Literature,” Bloom, Feb 7, 2017 https://bloom-site.com/2017/02/07/the-middle-ages/
“Breathing Again,” High Country News, Writers on Range, Feb 1, 2017http://www.hcn.org/articles/breathing-again-after-an-unexpected-election
"No Sound, No Fury" -- Modern Love, NYT - https://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/22/fashion/marriage-breakups-separation.html?smid=fb-share&_r=2
“The Great West Has More than One Story to Tell,” Literary Hub, Feb 2, 2017 http://lithub.com/the-great-west-has-more-than-one-story-to-tell/
“A Writer's Tip for Writing Better Sex Scenes,” Publisher’s Weekly, January 2017 http://www.publishersweekly.com/pw/by-topic/columns-and-blogs/soapbox/article/72439-a-writer-s-tip-for-writing-better-sex-scenes-steal.html
“Fracking: OnEarth” http://www.salon.com/2013/09/25/colorado_flooded_with_fracking_fluid_partner/
“When the Fires Came for Us,” Salon, July:http://www.salon.com/2012/07/26/when_the_fires_came_for_us/
“An Ode to gardens and dirt,” High Country News, November 2015 http://www.hcn.org/issues/47.19/an-ode-to-germs-guts-and-gardens
“Caregiving: I’ll do it my way,” O Magazine, November 2014, package winner of the ASME Award http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Care-for-Elderly-Parents- Elder-Care
“The Best Mango in the World,” https://www.hcn.org/articles/the-best-mango-in-the-world Writers on Range, High Country News, July 2015
“When the Fires Came for Us,” Salon, July, 2012. http://www.salon.com/2012/07/26/when_the_fires_came_for_us/
Selected talks and interviews
The Panhandle-Plains Historical Museum: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1EPURryVIDo
Adams State Featured Speaker: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v-tKbfTKtA4
Jaipur Literary Festival, 2016: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tVlSypumzMU
Jaipur Literary Festival, 2015: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTcbN7NEFyQ
Stars Go Blue Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XPPXGRRlTqM