Making Friends with Death:              A Field Guide for Your Impending Last Breath


A slightly irreverent (but always respectful) new book about befriending the inevitable

We all enjoy denial, and who could blame us? Mortality salience is a strange thing! And yet. Many of us do want to talk about it, do want to prepare, do want to get our things in order. When the time comes, we want to do it right, with our chins up and our hearts brave. If we can make friends with death—even a bit—well, we will have done ourselves (and others) a great service. So, welcome to Making Friends With Death . . . a spunky, practical, and honest book and support system dedicated to helping us journey into the final frontier. 

What others are saying . . .

"Pritchett’s stories and exercises were very enjoyable to read, often funny, always open and sincere, and written to put the reader at ease. Even without the guided exercises, one might enjoy simply reading her stories.  But don’t just read this book!  Use the guide, take control of the one thing we can all count on (dying) and plan your death and your life accordingly. Write your own story and you will have made a new friend."

--Dr. Sanders Burstein. Read the whole thing here


As a practicing clinical psychologist, I exhort all my patients to confront their fears and adversities head-on — rationally, courageously, with grit and determination. This is exactly what Laura Pritchett does in her much- needed self-help book, Making Friends With Death. She shares a veritable cornucopia of personal experiences, strategies, perspectives, and workshop-like exercises to demystify, intelligently prepare for, and gracefully manage this most daunting of all of life’s challenges — our passing. Written in an accessible style fused with warmth, humor, and wisdom, it should be on everyone’s got-to-read list and part of every clinician’s library.

---- Russell Grieger, Ph.D., author of The Couples Therapy Companion, Unrelenting Drive, and a memoir, The Perfect Season.


Wow. While I’ve read my fair share of advice and research on dying, sat with dying patients, and experienced my own mortality at a young age, nothing could’ve prepared me for this book. The emotions surrounding death – from catapulting hope to bottoming out grief – are captured in such a succinct and artful way that is at once both fearfully honest and – dare I say – entertaining. Laura Pritchett has assembled a true workbook for the one course none of us want to take. Astonishingly, I feel I may have been given the key to a good death.”

---- Laura Katers, Physician Assistant, Inpatient Pain Management, University of Washington Medical Center


Death, that universal experience that is rarely discussed at parties, is now made accessible to all of us.  Laura Pritchett has provided us with an intricate road map for the exploration of our death so that we can get on with the business of joyful living.  This book is truly a gift to humanity.”

----Dr. Tim Flynn, Physical Therapist and International Expert in Chronic Pain Management


 Pritchett is the winner of the PEN USA Award for Fiction, the High Plains Book Award, the WILLA Fiction Award, and others. 

Pritchett is the winner of the PEN USA Award for Fiction, the High Plains Book Award, the WILLA Fiction Award, and others. 

About the author . . . 

Laura Pritchett is a mere mortal who will someday die. She’s also the author of five novels: Stars Go Blue, Red Lightning, The Blue Hour, Sky Bridge, and Hell's Bottom Colorado. She's the recipient of the PEN USA Award, the Milkweed National Fiction Prize, the High Plains Book Award, the Willa Award, and others. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, O Magazine, Salon, High Country News, The Millions, Publisher’s Weekly, Bloom, The Sun, and others. She holds a PhD from Purdue University and teaches and speaks around the country—as she happily prepares for her death. You can find out more at

PBS called The Blue Hour "One of the books that will make you think about what it is to be human" - read more here

And she's recently been called one of the "Bad Ass Women Writing the West" and you can read more here

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Death: The Final Frontier!

Death is serious business. Getting bad news hurts. And coping with fear is no laughing matter. And yet. A little humor, and a lot of practical advice, and some serious wisdoms--well, that can help.

In this light-hearted, spunky exploration of the one thing that is certain, Making Friends with Death offers a look at all the uncertainty that precedes this final act. Written by novelist Laura Pritchett, this book offers a compelling mix of practical how-to advice and personal narrative. Based on Pritchett's own quest for a peaceful death at a time when it felt very near, this book encapsulates all she learned over years of research, interviews, and plain-and-simple crazy questing to make some sense of our greatest quest—to die with our chins up, our hearts brave, and our souls at peace. 

Pritchett offers up wisdoms she has gleaned from all sorts of interviews and journeys, including a decade of traditional research and a lifetime of other related, but less formal, pursuits (digging up a dead body, hosting Death Cafés, and confronting the grim reaper herself).

Making Friends with Death broaches the sacred and the scary with warmth, research, and humor. Interspersed with a variety of workbook-like exercises, this book will prove to be the go-to companion for anyone who would prefer to greet death as an old friend, rather than a spooky stranger. 

To watch Pritchett's TEDx talk on this subject, click here: TEDx "Making Friends with Death? Heck, ya!"


You can find out more here To order, please consider going first to your local indie bookstore (yay indies!).  You can also click here:

 "Use death as your advisor," as they say . . . . 

"Use death as your advisor," as they say . . . . 

Workshops, readings & retreats

Classes and retreats are offered at various places across the country -- and if you have a group of interested participants and would like to schedule a visit, email

 There are lots of books about dying . . . and many are great! But I needed something different--basically, a “How-To-Guide,” or a “Dummy’s Guide to Death.” So I wrote the book I needed.

There are lots of books about dying . . . and many are great! But I needed something different--basically, a “How-To-Guide,” or a “Dummy’s Guide to Death.” So I wrote the book I needed.

 Click  here  to read reviews!

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